‘We planned our wedding in two weeks and actually, it was spot on’ – Holly and Marco on not sweating the small stuff
With a wedding planned for the weekend after lockdown began in March 2020, Holly and Marco De Jesus found themselves having to cancel everything almost overnight.
‘It was a huge shock,’ said Holly. ‘The week before it started to sound like things were really serious, but to be honest I think I was in denial. Nobody really knew what to do or what was going to happen.’
Initially Holly and Marco decided to stick with their original wedding plans, simply postponing them a few months until September 2020.
By August though it was clear that there would be no chance of having a big wedding anytime in the near future and couple was forced to think again.
They chose to push the date back one more time, to May 2021 keeping the same Edinburgh venue, still desperate to salvage the day that they had planned.
But within a couple of weeks they found that the pressure of the endless delays was becoming too much.
‘We got really fed up with all the waiting. We had been so focused on saving what we had planned that we had forgotten that it was actually all about a marriage.
‘You can always postpone a party, but we realised we didn’t have to wait to have a wedding. We thought, let’s just go for it.’
The couple decided to revert to their second wedding date – 19th September – which gave them just two weeks to assemble an entire micro wedding from scratch. They found their new venue, Murthly Castle in Perthshire, on Google and booked it immediately.
‘Thomas the owner was super helpful, we can’t thank him enough for being so flexible with us,’ Holly added.
An indoor wedding would require everyone to wear masks so Holly and Marco opted for a service outdoors and kept their fingers crossed for Scottish weather would cooperate.
With ten days to go the rules changed again, now weddings and receptions could only happen in licensed premises. It meant that the couple’s plans to follow the ceremony with an informal BBQ reception in Holly’s parents’ garden were off.
Despite the chaos Holly and Marco remained calm and took charge of the personal details of their wedding day, with Thomas’ help they organised an afternoon tea to be laid on for guests in the grounds of the castle which turned out to be a roaring success.
Marco designed Holly’s engagement ring himself and had it handcrafted in the shape of a sunflower so it had always been her intention for them to feature in the theme for the day. Now faced with assembling her own bouquets she realized that in this world of high speed wedding planning, the control was all hers.
And the flowers were not the only home-made touches, Marco’s mum made their wedding cake and as a final joke about their hectic year, guests were treated to wedding favours of confetti and personalised bottles of hand sanitiser.
‘Sometimes, all you can do is own it,’ said Holly. ‘We are a Covid wedding.’
On the big day itself their resilience was rewarded with glorious sunny weather. The ceremony took place on the lawn and Holly and Marco said their vows in front of 18 of their closest family and friends, with more following along online.
‘We had people phoning in on a WhatsApp call and my sister’s boyfriend stood at the back and held his camera up so they could watch the ceremony
‘There were still people we felt were missing and I felt weird not being able to hug anyone. It was a really big decision, we still talk about it all the time, but we’re so glad we went for it.
‘Eilidh captured all the emotion of everything so well, the photos are so so good. We had an amazing day, we planned our wedding in two week and actually, it was spot on!’
Holly and Marco’s top tips for a micro wedding:
- It’s important to remember the point of the day and why you’re doing it. It’s easy to get distracted by lots of little details forget the actual reason you’re doing all this. It really made me realise that you don’t need to sweat the small stuff.
- Decide what is important to you as a couple and go with it, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.
- The hardest thing to decide for us was the guest list. We made a list of our immediate family, people we couldn’t face not having there as an absolute minimum. That really helped us make the decision to go for it when we had the chance because we knew what our minimum list was and we knew that the rules at the time would allow them all to be there.
Since ‘normal’ weddings were suspended nearly a year ago, we have shot more than a dozen smaller weddings for couples who didn’t want to delay the nuptials. We understand what a tricky, stressful decision this can be and we will be here for you every step of the way. If your plans are changing and you want to celebrate your own Micro Wedding with some spectacular photos please do get in touch for a bespoke consultation and quote.